(Santa Monica Beach, L.A. – California USA 2017)
Activate Your Dreamlife
(Santa Monica Beach, L.A. – California USA 2017)
your “poor me”-attitude is hijacking your audition… and your career!
There we are… finally!
2hours later, waiting in the cold for ages, quickly dumping a take-away snack into your tummy because you didn’t want to be last in the queue, can’t be late or this’ll take the whole day
-We train them to create clear boundaries between what they desire and accept only this, and in a parallel unwaveringly dump what does not fit their call.
Then, we dress up a list of potential dating partners and let their intuition fire up on WHICH ONES to date.
Interestingly enough, I was having a parallel relationship in real life that was fuelling all these victim thoughts too.
I was subconsciously giving my power away in my intimacy with my partner at the time: hoping he would make me happy, hoping he’d just love me, witholding my real thoughts and my real fears for the fear of being rejected.
This is actually a topic for a different blog entry, but can you feel the links here?
Warning: This article may pivot your fouetté back around and you may feel angry or highly triggered.
Just brace yourself and dive if you dare!
Most highly successful athletes have one.
Every star swears by their life coach and how they can keep the grounds during rough times and keep track with directions.
It’s completely liberating receiving support.
In the entrepreneurial world, this is a norm already.
You can hardly spark amazing success without having someone to turn to when riding the highs and lows of the journey. Someone to keep you accountable and thriving when your emotional and spiritual growth feels rough.
Why is it that dancers and performers don’t have this yet?
Facing hardships alone, really isn’t easy.
I found they often they feel overwhelmed or lose focus: robotic running from audition to teaching position, invest all their money into photoshoots, rent, costumes and classes. And still end up with low scratching bank accounts.
I lived in London for nearly 8 years as a dance teacher, and some of my personal friends would often complain about the low points and desperation during their careers.
Being paid peanuts for high impact energy work, hours on end on sets or sniffy studios.
Doing acting jobs rather than dreamjobs, because the bills needed to be paid.
Accepting collaborations trading their talent over so-called exposure rather than straight £££.
And these were talented artists, working hard and “doing the right thing”.
Many a time did I converse with recently graduated musical college students and so-called expert performers alike and here’s what I noticed:
they still were trying to fit the “ideal” that was completely focused externally ( sub-consciously pleasing past teachers’ or other dance friends’ dreams rather than their own, trying to prove anyone wrong or how they could “make it anyway”, following the pre-cut-cookie-shape rather than their soul calling).
Do auditions until you drop.
Run the hunger marathon daily and end up as a number in the discarded crowd over and over.
I mean, the list is endless.
If you’re already getting the jobs and feel through and through amazing about your success, you may remember a time when you didn’t and it is important to acknowledge what exactly you changed to adapt to this hurdle.
If you don’t, you will get your intuition re-activated. Hold your tights!
The point is:
why is it that dancers don’t receive proper mentoring during their studies and overall support there after?
Why is this not a priority?
You are a human being with emotions and lessons before being a performer.
And I’m sorry to say, not even the best-meaning teachers will have time to invest in your emotional growth, as they are probably doing the same crazy run as everyone else in the industry.
Just scratching the surface of studies around how thoughts and emotions trigger actions and results should be enough to shake our booties in the right direction.
Possibly, our industry is still one of the lowest paid in the entertainment world maybe not because we are worthless and not deserving to be paid more (no, the excuse there’s no money for all is not valid, sorry!), but because we keep accepting this messed up treatment aka our boundaries are weak AF.
And maybe the reason why you wanted to dance or perform in the first place is out of alignment now: your integrity as a human being with a birthright to freedom and expansion, deserving to be valued and celebrated all the way is just not happening, because you’re not demanding it.
And that this is what is actually depleting your dancer’s heart!
The fact that the industry is ruthless and there’s not enough jobs to go around is just not enough to keep you running on the hamster wheel.
Maybe that toxic friendship or relationship is draining you and actually affecting you and your success so much more than you imagine.
Perhaps your injuries are a sign that you are subliminally sabotaging yourself and your career, because you’re actually afraid of being powerful.
Am I ruffling some feathers!?
I hope so!
And you may not agree or feel triggered or angry, which is fine, but just allow yourself to play with this idea.
You can always drop it after if it’s not your truth. I know you’re ready to have your mind challenged.
Dancers have brains that are highly sensitive and intuitive. We’re wired to constantly scan our external world (perform for an audience, project to be seen, adjust their technique in the mirror for hours on end, even when they’re resting their brains are still dancing). Truly a dancer’s mind is trained very differently to any other human: monitoring body, sound, feelings, projections, constantly scanning their inner and their external world 24/7,
Just stop for a second and chew on this.
Did you ever notice this?
Now let’s get back on track to our title:
what if you are simply to create a new paradigm with dance and your art?
what if the reason to dance is actually the ultimate connection to your divine essence and you simply forgot?
what if you could never fail?
what if if nobody would criticise you or reject you in any way?
what would you do?
leaving this BLANK for you to stop and let the answer come to you.
THAT my dear is what you should actually be doing.
Stop wasting money on your next random training class or photo portfolio because everyone else is running that way.
Maybe you were born for wilder and bolder things?
Or maybe you desire to show up to yourself and the next generations of dancers to come, to step into your footprints, because nobody else dared to question this type of success-orientation (which may work for 1%) and you are among those to create their own revolution.
Maybe you want to create a platform and put dance on a pedestal where it has never been before? use the artform in completely reinvented ways?
I can assure you, so many others ACTUALLY want the same as you.
You’re never really alone with a desire, because the universe trusts you and many others with the same idea.
Your dream or idea was never actually yours, The universe just comes knocking at your door with it and it’s up to you to take it or leave it.
I know I’m speaking straight into your soul, and if you’re ready to have your feathers shimmied, you just KNOW that that’s what truly moves you. This was the actual reason why you were born a dancer, no mistakes ever.
It never really was about the money or the next paying job.
It actually is all about what you came here to shift in yourself and in the society we live in.
It never was even about being the next star’s backing dancer.
Maybe you’ve come here to reclaim the power dance has had for millions of years and we forgot:
To channel the divine into the body.
To create a blasting ecstatic revelation in your consciousness.
To create mass connection.
when are you going to be bold and invest in yourself, believe in yourself and the this huge big “WHY?” you are here?
Have the right questions asked to you, so you drop the run for cover.
Get naked and dance like you were always meant to?
Drop the shame, second-guessing, doubt and fear and let your wisdom speak up louder.
Create space for those things that REALLY move you. And the world.
No teacher will ever give you this, because you are to find it within.
And that’s what mentors do: they ask the right questions to ruffle your feathers and flake off your fake masks and habits.
Not for them.
They have the ability to shift this, because they don’t care about the outcome, truly.
Work with someone who scares you a little.
Take that leap out of fear you’ll never be enough.
Trust is an internal motor:
the more you show up in the aligned path,
face your dark lions head on and drop the cage bars,
the more you realise how easy things come to you… and that’s where the magic happens.
Ease comes AFTER the dark.
After you’ve felt your fears through and through and let them dissolve in the process.
Acknowledge the beast, honour it, tame it and DANCE with it.
Trust will move right into your front door…
and so will the cash.
I just adore how pleasure is completely THE TAP to manifesting.
Most spiritual affirmations and visualisations don’t work.
And I’ll tell you why:
Once you unblock negative emotions, let them ravel up in a safe container and integrate the aspects in yourself that were hurting for years!
All these stories create all sorts of discomfort, physical pain or toxic behavioural patterns…
you have to transmute not only on a mind level,
but also on a BODY level!
(thank you universe for making me enter this life as a dancer and get really in tune with my body! I love you 😀 )
And that “feeling part” is what most people don’t want to do, don’t know how to do or are afraid to do!
They believe that FEELING BAD is going to spiral their vibration down and stop them from manifesting their dreams.
(law of attraction saying: low vibe attracts low vibe….)
OMG! this couldn’t be further from the truth!
ONLY when you actually transmute the FEELING IMPRINT (yes in your body!)
THAT’s when you’re ready to FULLY RECEIVE what you deserved and desired all along.
You see, blocked emotions (feelings that are there, but you don’t allow to fully feel) create false beliefs and false stories!
The ego and hurting personality LOVES that, because it feeds on FAKE SUCCESS
This way it can create more ways to feel more pain and more self loathing and more of that icky – shitty stuff you never actually wanted
Blocked emotions undermine your “ability to feel full pleasure”,
and therefore create false desires!
yup, it goes way deeper than that!
when you actually integrate and heal, you naturally gravitate towards new desires, new goals and new beautiful connections
Your soul KNOWS what you were here for all along, you just need to allow your soul to fully flow through you
I’m seeing that a lot of us dancers and body artists get really caught up in the technicalities of “how to do, do, do….”, the technique, showing up, doing, running, auditions, classes…
and that’s good of course:
but there comes that point when you are “DOING EVERYTHING RIGHT!”… and you’re still not getting into that company, or dream job you so badly wanted…
and here’s why:
On an energetic level, what is happening is that you pull all the energy AND wisdom out of the body
you become mind-driven only
a bit like a robocop-body
when you disconnect from your body’s knowing on a much deeper level then… your actions are fuelled and driven by external direction
what people say,
how society acts,
what your mum told you,
what your teachers said was true,
what you should be/should’ve been doing…
rather than fuelling your fire from within.
This does not only happen to dancers btw…
I feel like our whole society is running on this pattern sometimes!
when you KNOW
when you LOVE
when you CONNECT with your SOUL
you’re just ready to create instant results (FROM WITHIN!)
you naturally strengthen your inner compass (REAL GOOD STUFF – RADAR)
and that’s where REAL FULFILMENT hits the fan in life.
that stance simply allows no time and space for all the BS mentioned above.
Once you jump on to the boat to freedom, well there just simply IS ONLY BLISS and dreams coming true!
you can just provide and give yourself all the things you need
you allow yourself to be in the flow
you allow money, love, results and bliss in RIGHT NOW
there never was any other way, really…
Stop wasting TIME on your monkey-mind that you could invest in SERIOUS STRATEGY to create your soul’s dreams
Stop giving all those stories the ENERGY that you could use to fuel your REAL CREATION / MANIFESTATION
(yes with seriously cool dream jobs)
take a stance today
MAKE THE SPACE!
CREATE IT RIGHT NOW!
If you’re ready for this u-turn send me a PM!
(btw non-dancers will benefit equally!)
You know in your heart if this is for you
If you’re not getting thrills and chills down your spine by now, it’s probably not.
I’m opening spots for 1on1 now to activate instant results from within.
Schedule your session following this link!
Come ready to $$$$$$ in yourself!
there used to be a time when I thought my body was not my own
it was shameful to reveal too much,
it was inadequate to think I’m beautiful
it was unwanted to celebrate my curves
this is gone
There is nothing more beautiful than a human being feeling totally relaxed in their own body
totally calibrated with their body, mind and soul
totally ecstatic about life and taking pleasure in it all
totally feeling the love vibrate through each and every cell
breathing and pulsating with joy
Our highest vibration is FREEDOM
drop the shame and lift your bliss
drop the burden and fly high
drop the doubt and be who you always wanted to be
deep down inside you
there is that voice calling
wolves are in tune with that wilderness
panthers run through the jungle with ease
dolphins leap out and into the ocean
all of nature celebrates this instinct
take a breath
feel your heart
relax into you body
into your pleasure
your sensations all awakened
the fountain of youth quivers right there in your womb
if you want to dive deeper into this join other goddesses on the path to magic
become alive with bliss and ecstasy
let’s run this marathon of joy
let’s celebrate our wild calling and EXPLODE our lives into cosmic abundance
All photo credits to Love Miss D Photography
most of the times it is tied in with the allowing of gratitude,
the constant pulling your mind back into the awareness,
the continuous reminder to breathe into your belly,
to fill your lungs with oxygen,
to relax your shoulders… and your jaw… and the dot between your eyebrows….
the validating of whatever is,
the knowing that you are safe,
and you are loved,
Even if you don’t feel you are….
You are not your thoughts or the words, these swords slashing
Just tune in and offer this gift to yourself:
allow love to move right into the soles of your feet,
hear the beating of your heart.
Quieting down the noise and listen in.
That space, no matter where you are…
The bliss is right there, right here, inside of you
What initially mesmerized me when I witnessed the tapping feet of folklore dancers was the profound mystery I felt. Let me take you into the first experience I can remember when seeing, feeling and gazing at dancers’ feet.
Continue reading “When it all began…”