Are you dreaming… too small?

your world will flip upside down in a minute and click into place like a cracky hip-joint.
Get ready for the swirl!
So I’ve been super passionate about people’s dreams this week.
I’ve been asking friends, family and clients about what they would love to create in their lives.
The old self in me would have reacted with:
“aww that’s so nice! I’m happy for you!” (smile-pretty-face)
And trust me, it truly IS sweet & all that jazz when people tell me their intimate dreams, but here comes the bomb.
Oh wait!
Noooooo…. let’s make this fun!
(I like fun 😉 )
Let’s play with you too:
so, before you read on, just take a little moment to visualise your biggest dream!
Truly feel into it, or write it down on a piece of paper… and then return here….
Ok, you did it?
You didn’t?
argh cm’on! you party popper lol….
no seriously now, this is real shizzle! DO IT! (thank me later)


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Alright alright…. well-done back pats for the good boys and girls who did it. (wink!)
here’s what I found:
most of you out there have cute dreams and projects you wanna do.
Yes! I said it: CUTE!
yeah…. they sound “lovely” “please your mumma” type, ya know “this is what your friends would love for you…” awwwwww
Your dreams actually won’t come true…. and I’ll tell you why!
Your dreams don’t f&%$ing SCARE the SHIZZLE out of you enough!
And because they don’t scare you enough, you relinquish, you settle, the steam will go out, you won’t ever make it.
That’s right!
Sorry, but not sorry!
This is actually the compelling part, you see:
Only when I dropped into the big-bum game was I even able to talk about the stuff I really want to talk about (just like this MF kick-ass article, tehehe).
Only when I understood the true calling behind my dreams (waaay bigger than me in my little world) was I able to align with the higher purpose of mini-me in the big-wide-world and how other people’s presence alongside with me would we create true long-lasting change in the world (I mean BIG LOVE earth style) !
And only then did I start taking committed action and FEEL what my soul really wanted for me all this time!
Allow myself to TALK to people, SHOW myself to people (yup, even massive emotional release in front of big groups, screaming, yelling and crying the whole out of me, drop that shame bit$$).
Only when I dropped my ego mind (yeah, ego can be a friend too, but most of the time it loves you being small and cute, because it can tear you like a starving beast whenever it pleases- enough you f$$$er).
Only when I felt the roars of my BIG BOLD DREAMS did I grow a real parent and mentor within to hold myself accountable (no more excuses, no more messing about).
Truth is, we KNOW what we truly desire!
We also KNOW what our fears are, and we keep hiding from them.
(Let’s not swirl too much anger out, or frustration, as that’ll get you back in the lock-down-no-creative-self rut- IN THE PAST!)
What a flipping DELUSION!
It truly happens this way.
But you see, you’ve gotta be ok feeling the discomfort first and feeling the edge of the sword and you’ve gotta drop the armour down that is trying to protect you from feeling the stuff you don’t want to feel (shame, guilt, anger, lack of this and that).
And it just takes the bigger bolder you to appear and be fully embodied.
Here I am in California, with 500£ in my bank account (my old self would be flipping shameful about saying it – IN THE PAST!), about to set off to Hawaii next week, and touring around the world (total inspired call to action!).
Some people would call me crazy, but I know that I will be totally fine!
(TRUTH baby!)
And you will probably PM me soon to ask HOW D’Y’DO THIS?
And I’ll be smiling and say:
welcome to my world, baby!
It’s wild and gorgeous in here, wanna play?
Book some time with me!
hehe… nope not joking!
You just want to be there, in the free flow!
Yes you do, and your soul knows it, too!
That’s what souls do, they align align align…
And now it’s up to you to figure out: do you want to EXECUTE your dreams BIG-TIME or leave them there in the airy-fairy open….
are you going to waste your dreams or MAKE YOUR DREAMS?

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(Santa Monica Beach, L.A. – California USA 2017)


Please, pick ME!

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There we are… finally!

2hours later, waiting in the cold for ages, quickly dumping a take-away snack into your tummy because you didn’t want to be last in the queue, can’t be late or this’ll take the whole day

You can feel the other dancer’s nerves tightening your throat.
Their cold disconnected eyes. Shallow breaths and falsely boasted up postures.
Everyone’s a little anxious right here.


A gazillion thoughts course through the mind:
make-up issues, how long till the call?, guess I put on weight, argh rent is coming up next week, oh she looks so much fitter than me, shit his leg lines are so perfect, gotta focus, stretch the neck, did I bring water?, I wonder what babe’s doing right now, (phone blinks up “good luck duckling!”) ah mum’s so sweet, she remembered! argh what the f%&$ am I doing here, they’re all so much taller than me, I’ll never get it.


And just like a church bell echoing into an empty village, there comes the number, the call!


The heart races and the legs weaken a little.
Adrenaline kicking in, NOW’s the time!
Let’s go!


I wish they would just pick me!
I haven’t had a yes in months!
I wish I could just “make it” this time round!


Been there?
Yeah… me to!


Never did I think that my feelings and my mindset had anything to do with how I was sabotaging my success and how I was putting my artistic self  so free-willingly into the guillotine frame: so cruel but true!
Please, chop it off!


You see, desperation is what lead me astray from all my dreams.
Little did I know I kept running for the wrong goal.
I turned into a victim of fate, whatever the judgement of the audition judge or teacher or dance mate, was the truth, like religion.
Rejection after rejection my brain started to figure I just wasn’t “IT” and I gave up altogether.


When I began dancing as a young girl, I would dance for the joy of dancing, because I loved making new friends.
I would feel loved. I would feel excited to learn new steps and put up a performance, wear costumes.
I didn’t really question my technique, or my body, or whether I would be at the front or the back of the stage, not even did I worry I would not be taken at all. It also didn’t really matter if I was just in our living room.
This expression was free. I just wanted to feel the warmth of the spotlights on my skin and dance my soul out.


Somewhere in-between however, all these “professional dance life details” became important and robbed me from my creative self:
what changed?


Well the vibration changed.
There is a very strong link between outer and inner motifs.
What fuelled me initially came from within: joy, celebration, curiosity, wilderness, freedom.
What fuelled me after was external: technical ability, being better than, paying my bills, being accepted, wanting approval, prove my worth, needing to convince, doing it for the money, wanting to please, etc


This seems somewhat unrelated, but just hold on for a bit before you ditch this, as I promise it will get juicy!


I was speaking to a few dating experts this week and they were saying how a lot of women and men stop dating because they get rejected over and over.
They “have tried it all”, and yet they still keep getting “no”, “not my type”, “we can be friends though”, or just empty fields with a croaky-voiced cricket.


As I asked them what exactly it is they change in people, so that they can “get laid” or “get into a meaningful relationship”; their answer was simple:
-We get the client back in-tune with their intuition!
Oh, how so?

-We train them to create clear boundaries between what they desire and accept only this, and in a parallel unwaveringly dump what does not fit their call.

Then, we dress up a list of potential dating partners and let their intuition fire up on WHICH ONES to date.

Most of the time their soul already knows “who is a great potential”, but the human small mindedness tells them all sorts of excuses: they can’t have them, they’re too this or too that; which leads them to not dating at all, or date the ones they “think they can have”, as opposed to the ones they truly desire.
So we re-calibrate their true desires with true boss-babe-style inspired action (ask for what they want, create time for pleasure and feeling good, speak their truth in everyday life, etc)!
They naturally build confidence and, of course…. there comes the calendar with booked date nights and the next relationship shortly after.


There and then it CLICKED!! YES! This made sense.
I’ve seen this in many other areas too, and the link with audition rejections and dancers like a wrong-gone dating profile is so obvious!


We dancers do exactly the same thing.
We self-sabotage our love relationship with our art, because we feel we can’t have what we truly desire.


How many times, did I go to an audition, because I was desperate for money, or desperate to be “taken”?
How many show opportunities did I dump because “I needed to be a good girl and show up at work instead”?
How many times did I not show up to auditions in weeks because I was still “bleeding from last time’s rejection” and “busy beating myself up”?
How many dance jobs did I turn down because I was afraid “I’m not good enough, qualified enough, blah blah blah enough”?


Even though these genuinely felt exciting, felt bolt, felt true to my soul’s desires.


I have turned around my true dream “hotpot” for ages, found all sorts of excuses and actually never ended up “making it”.
Always playing small in my field, not daring or training in ways that empowered me.


Interestingly enough, I was having a parallel relationship in real life that was fuelling all these victim thoughts too.
I was subconsciously giving my power away in my intimacy with my partner at the time: hoping he would make me happy, hoping he’d just love me, witholding my real thoughts and my real fears for the fear of being rejected.
This is actually a topic for a different blog entry, but can you feel the links here?

“Making it” is such a human thing that keeps us locked into our small world.
Truly we are made for so much bolder and bigger dreams.
The universe already knows we can have our desires, but sometimes they just don’t come around the ways we hope they will.
And then, we shut down slowly. We resign. We don’t get the results and so let go of the big call altogether.
We consent to fate’s will and hope that someone will come to save us from our lacks.
And then we show up at an audition with this small minded, victim mode, desperate-icky face… please, will you?


Truth is: it doesn’t have to be this way for the rest of your life.
Are you willing to drop this?


I’d like you to go away with something to chew on, as that’s just my passion for mentoring speaking through here!
Ok, grab a journal and let’s get super clear, then:


What is it that you truly desire when you perform?
If there was no rejection possible, ever, what would you do?
If you didn’t need any money, or financial support, how would you express yourself?
If you were your own best mum/dad, what advice would you give yourself right now?
do you want to go to auditions? what would your inner parent say to you during auditions?
What do you want to create?
What change do you want to fuel in your life, in the industry, in the world?


I found the best advice ever given to me, was to see myself as a big drop in the ocean and to see that my drop was in direct repercussion with all the other drops here in this life.
To give my services & acts over to the higher aspect in me and allow her to stir the directions.


That’s when the rejection at an audition was simply a way for me to understand and give more love for myself.
How the reason I am here is in direct interlink with ALL the happenings in the industry as well as the world.
That’s also when my joy for dance catapulted right back into my life and I found that mentoring and empowering others is what mostly moves my heart. I know that every single person on this planet has a soul calling, and it comes in multiple ways of expression. The reason you were canoed into the dancer flow also has a meaning!


I began to notice that auditions were not my pathway alone, and that the outcome truly didn’t define my worth at all.
They are simply a means to an end, but there are TONS and tons of pathways possible.
I stopped giving my power away to the external and started to move from the internal.
I also cast out situations and people that didn’t feel in alignment.
I started to invest in myself and allow myself to receive pleasure and love on all levels (physical, emotional, sexual, energetic, etc.).


Now I’m travelling the world and I dance in beautiful locations when I feel called to.
I will perform when it feels good to do so. I started singing, painting and writing along the way.
I will collaborate when my soul feels it desires to stretch itself in this manner.
After all, why not?


I allow myself to do all that feels f%&$ing amazing because I deserve to be treated like a queen, especially by myself.


Yes auditions, are still on the radar, and if I go in, it is a full-heart beautiful experience, I tune into the people there, their work, their human nature, into the joy of receiving, sharing and giving.


When my inner child feels loved and supported by the best parent or mentor in my heart, she doesn’t need to be scared anymore.
I can provide for her, no matter what!


My joy is a gift. It is not for sale.


Elisabete Antunes

Why performers should splash their hard earned cash into a mentor rather than the next photoshoot

Warning: This article may pivot your fouetté back around and you may feel angry or highly triggered.
Just brace yourself and dive if you dare!

8 Catwalk Diva

Most highly successful athletes have one.
Every star swears by their life coach and how they can keep the grounds during rough times and keep track with directions.
It’s completely liberating receiving support.

In the entrepreneurial world, this is a norm already.
You can hardly spark amazing success without having someone to turn to when riding the highs and lows of the journey. Someone to keep you accountable and thriving when your emotional and spiritual growth feels rough.

Why is it that dancers and performers don’t have this yet?
Facing hardships alone, really isn’t easy.
I found they often they feel overwhelmed or lose focus: robotic running from audition to teaching position, invest all their money into photoshoots, rent, costumes and classes. And still end up with low scratching bank accounts.

I lived in London for nearly 8 years as a dance teacher, and some of my personal friends would often complain about the low points and desperation during their careers.
Being paid peanuts for high impact energy work, hours on end on sets or sniffy studios.
Doing acting jobs rather than dreamjobs, because the bills needed to be paid.
Accepting collaborations trading their talent over so-called exposure rather than straight £££.
And these were talented artists, working hard and “doing the right thing”.

Many a time did I converse with recently graduated musical college students and so-called expert performers alike and here’s what I noticed:
they still were trying to fit the “ideal” that was completely focused externally ( sub-consciously pleasing past teachers’ or other dance friends’ dreams rather than their own, trying to prove anyone wrong or how they could “make it anyway”, following the pre-cut-cookie-shape rather than their soul calling).
Do auditions until you drop.
Run the hunger marathon daily and end up as a number in the discarded crowd over and over.

I mean, the list is endless.

If you’re already getting the jobs and feel through and through amazing about your success, you may remember a time when you didn’t and it is important to acknowledge what exactly you changed to adapt to this hurdle.

If you don’t, you will get your intuition re-activated. Hold your tights!

The point is:
why is it that dancers don’t receive proper mentoring during their studies and overall support there after?
Why is this not a priority?

You are a human being with emotions and lessons before being a performer.

And I’m sorry to say, not even the best-meaning teachers will have time to invest in your emotional growth, as they are probably doing the same crazy run as everyone else in the industry.

Just scratching the surface of studies around how thoughts and emotions trigger actions and results should be enough to shake our booties in the right direction.

Possibly, our industry is still one of the lowest paid in the entertainment world maybe not because we are worthless and not deserving to be paid more (no, the excuse there’s no money for all is not valid, sorry!), but because we keep accepting this messed up treatment aka our boundaries are weak AF.

And maybe the reason why you wanted to dance or perform in the first place is out of alignment now: your integrity as a human being with a birthright to freedom and expansion, deserving to be valued and celebrated all the way is just not happening, because you’re not demanding it.
And that this is what is actually depleting your dancer’s heart!
The fact that the industry is ruthless and there’s not enough jobs to go around is just not enough to keep you running on the hamster wheel.

Maybe that toxic friendship or relationship is draining you and actually affecting you and your success so much more than you imagine.

Perhaps your injuries are a sign that you are subliminally sabotaging yourself and your career, because you’re actually afraid of being powerful.

Am I ruffling some feathers!?

I hope so!
And you may not agree or feel triggered or angry, which is fine, but just allow yourself to play with this idea.
You can always drop it after if it’s not your truth. I know you’re ready to have your mind challenged.

Dancers have brains that are highly sensitive and intuitive. We’re wired to constantly scan our external world (perform for an audience, project to be seen, adjust their technique in the mirror for hours on end, even when they’re resting their brains are still dancing). Truly a dancer’s mind is trained very differently to any other human: monitoring body, sound, feelings, projections, constantly scanning their inner and their external world 24/7,

Just stop for a second and chew on this.

Did you ever notice this?

Now let’s get back on track to our title:

what if you are simply to create a new paradigm with dance and your art?
what if the reason to dance is actually the ultimate connection to your divine essence and you simply forgot?
what if you could never fail?
what if if nobody would criticise you or reject you in any way?

what would you do?
do differently?

leaving this BLANK for you to stop and let the answer come to you.

THAT my dear is what you should actually be doing.

Stop wasting money on your next random training class or photo portfolio because everyone else is running that way.
Maybe you were born for wilder and bolder things?
Or maybe you desire to show up to yourself and the next generations of dancers to come, to step into your footprints, because nobody else dared to question this type of success-orientation (which may work for 1%) and you are among those to create their own revolution.

Maybe you want to create a platform and put dance on a pedestal where it has never been before? use the artform in completely reinvented ways?

I can assure you, so many others ACTUALLY want the same as you.

You’re never really alone with a desire, because the universe trusts you and many others with the same idea.
Your dream or idea was never actually yours, The universe just comes knocking at your door with it and it’s up to you to take it or leave it.

I know I’m speaking straight into your soul, and if you’re ready to have your feathers shimmied, you just KNOW that that’s what truly moves you. This was the actual reason why you were born a dancer, no mistakes ever.

It never really was about the money or the next paying job.
It actually is all about what you came here to shift in yourself and in the society we live in.

It never was even about being the next star’s backing dancer.
Maybe you’ve come here to reclaim the power dance has had for millions of years and we forgot:
To channel the divine into the body.
To create a blasting ecstatic revelation in your consciousness.
To create mass connection.

when are you going to be bold and invest in yourself, believe in yourself and the this huge big “WHY?” you are here?
Have the right questions asked to you, so you drop the run for cover.
Get naked and dance like you were always meant to?
Drop the shame, second-guessing, doubt and fear and let your wisdom speak up louder.
Create space for those things that REALLY move you. And the world.

No teacher will ever give you this, because you are to find it within.

And that’s what mentors do: they ask the right questions to ruffle your feathers and flake off your fake masks and habits.
Not for them.
For you.

They have the ability to shift this, because they don’t care about the outcome, truly.

Work with someone who scares you a little.
Take that leap out of fear you’ll never be enough.
Trust is an internal motor:
the more you show up in the aligned path,
face your dark lions head on and drop the cage bars,
the more you realise how easy things come to you… and that’s where the magic happens.

Ease comes AFTER the dark.
After you’ve felt your fears through and through and let them dissolve in the process.
Acknowledge the beast, honour it, tame it and DANCE with it.

Trust will move right into your front door…
and so will the cash.

Elisabete Antunes

Affirmations won’t work, and this is why!

I just adore how pleasure is completely THE TAP to manifesting.

Most spiritual affirmations and visualisations don’t work.
And I’ll tell you why:


Once you unblock negative emotions, let them ravel up in a safe container and integrate the aspects in yourself that were hurting for years!
All these stories create all sorts of discomfort, physical pain or toxic behavioural patterns…

you have to transmute not only on a mind level,
but also on a BODY level!

(thank you universe for making me enter this life as a dancer and get really in tune with my body! I love you 😀 )

And that “feeling part” is what most people don’t want to do, don’t know how to do or are afraid to do!
They believe that FEELING BAD is going to spiral their vibration down and stop them from manifesting their dreams.
(law of attraction saying: low vibe attracts low vibe….)

OMG! this couldn’t be further from the truth!

ONLY when you actually transmute the FEELING IMPRINT (yes in your body!)
THAT’s when you’re ready to FULLY RECEIVE what you deserved and desired all along.

you matter stone

You see, blocked emotions (feelings that are there, but you don’t allow to fully feel) create false beliefs and false stories!

The ego and hurting personality LOVES that, because it feeds on FAKE SUCCESS
This way it can create more ways to feel more pain and more self loathing and more of that icky – shitty stuff you never actually wanted

Blocked emotions undermine your “ability to feel full pleasure”,
and therefore create false desires!

yup, it goes way deeper than that!

when you actually integrate and heal, you naturally gravitate towards new desires, new goals and new beautiful connections

Your soul KNOWS what you were here for all along, you just need to allow your soul to fully flow through you

I’m seeing that a lot of us dancers and body artists get really caught up in the technicalities of “how to do, do, do….”, the technique, showing up, doing, running, auditions, classes…
and that’s good of course:

but there comes that point when you are “DOING EVERYTHING RIGHT!”… and you’re still not getting into that company, or dream job you so badly wanted…

and here’s why:


On an energetic level, what is happening is that you pull all the energy AND wisdom out of the body
you become mind-driven only
a bit like a robocop-body

when you disconnect from your body’s knowing on a much deeper level then… your actions are fuelled and driven by external direction
what people say,
how society acts,
what your mum told you,
what your teachers said was true,
what you should be/should’ve been doing…

rather than fuelling your fire from within.

This does not only happen to dancers btw…
I feel like our whole society is running on this pattern sometimes!

Truth is:
when you KNOW
when you LOVE
when you CONNECT with your SOUL

you’re just ready to create instant results (FROM WITHIN!)
you naturally strengthen your inner compass (REAL GOOD STUFF – RADAR)
and that’s where REAL FULFILMENT hits the fan in life.

that stance simply allows no time and space for all the BS mentioned above.

Once you jump on to the boat to freedom, well there just simply IS ONLY BLISS and dreams coming true!

you can just provide and give yourself all the things you need
you allow yourself to be in the flow
you allow money, love, results and bliss in RIGHT NOW

there never was any other way, really…


Stop wasting TIME on your monkey-mind that you could invest in SERIOUS STRATEGY to create your soul’s dreams

Stop giving all those stories the ENERGY that you could use to fuel your REAL CREATION / MANIFESTATION
(yes with seriously cool dream jobs)

take a stance today
If you’re ready for this u-turn send me a PM!

(btw non-dancers will benefit equally!)

You know in your heart if this is for you
If you’re not getting thrills and chills down your spine by now, it’s probably not.

I’m opening spots for 1on1 now to activate instant results from within.

Schedule your session following this link!
Come ready to $$$$$$ in yourself!

It’s time, and you know it is.

A life of bliss comes around anytime, yet…

A life of bliss comes around anytime, yet…
are you going to miss it?
just like a train passing you by?
You could be living right next to paradise and not even recognise it’s there…
Many years I lived on the edge, close to the abyss hoping death would just take me on. Ravelled up in icky sticky cloths of grime…
Deep down, though, I was wishing secretly for a day I could be free of this emotional weight,
I could dance with wild abandon again,
feel sexy, and loved up, totally exhilarated with joy…
And then step by step I woke out of the slumber, I liberated so many aspects within me.
Joy and LIFE started to flood my body back with the vibes I had known from long ago.
And years later I’m standing up here on the cliff, and I’m daring the leap.
Trusting I can fly and I’m taking you all with me to play, to feel pleasure and joy all the way!
Yaaaahh, because we flipping deserve it!
We are wild spirits, we are beauty in roaring motion and we can
share so much with each other!
Come and play with us during the pleasurethon!
Come and see how awesome it feels to be in your body,
to be sensual, to be magic in motion.
Come see for yourself how this sensual bliss is right around the corner!
You know you want to be on this ride!
You may have been on the same journey too and now it’s time…
It’s time to celebrate YOU all the way and throw a big ass party with all the queens singing for joy, for juicy rebellion and love!
I can’t wait for you to be dancing with us

Why FREEDOM is what we really need

Love Miss D Boudoir Photography

there used to be a time when I thought my body was not my own
it was shameful to reveal too much,
it was inadequate to think I’m beautiful
it was unwanted to celebrate my curves

this is gone

There is nothing more beautiful than a human being feeling totally relaxed in their own body
totally calibrated with their body, mind and soul
totally ecstatic about life and taking pleasure in it all
totally feeling the love vibrate through each and every cell
breathing and pulsating with joy

Our highest vibration is FREEDOM

drop the shame and lift your bliss
drop the burden and fly high
drop the doubt and be who you always wanted to be

deep down inside you
there is that voice calling

wolves are in tune with that wilderness
panthers run through the jungle with ease
dolphins leap out and into the ocean
all of nature celebrates this instinct

slow down
take a breath
feel your heart
relax into you body
into your pleasure
your sensations all awakened

the fountain of youth quivers right there in your womb
she knows

if you want to dive deeper into this join other goddesses on the path to magic
become alive with bliss and ecstasy
let’s run this marathon of joy

let’s celebrate our wild calling and EXPLODE our lives into cosmic abundance

All photo credits to Love Miss D Photography

Bliss can be a choice

most of the times it is tied in with the allowing of gratitude,

the constant pulling your mind back into the awareness,
the continuous reminder to breathe into your belly,
to fill your lungs with oxygen,
to relax your shoulders… and your jaw… and the dot between your eyebrows….
the validating of whatever is,
the knowing that you are safe,
you are,
and you are loved,
and supported,
and seen.
Even if you don’t feel you are….

You are not your thoughts or the words, these swords slashing

Just tune in and offer this gift to yourself:
see yourself,
allow love to move right into the soles of your feet,
hear the beating of your heart.

Right there….
Quieting down the noise and listen in.

That space, no matter where you are…
The bliss is right there, right here, inside of you

Just breathe.